Help children understand what is happening inside them, without ever making them feel something is wrong with them
Parts of Me gives children up to 11 years of age, and the adults who care for them, a kinder shared language for feelings, behaviour and the protective parts we all carry. Story, pictures, cards and simple activities make it easy to begin, and you do not need any specialist knowledge.
By Angela M. Carter, Registered Social Worker and IFS trained therapist with over 30 years of clinical experience. Illustrated by Aaron Randy.
Children feel far more than they have words for
When big feelings show up as shouting, shutting down, refusing or going very quiet, it is easy to see the behaviour and miss the child underneath.
Parts of Me offers a different way in. Through a warm story and characters children recognise, they learn that every feeling and every behaviour comes from a part of them that is trying to help. The child is never the problem. Behaviour is met with curiosity instead of blame, and adults and children begin to speak the same gentle language.
Characters children can see themselves in
Meet some of the parts children get to know in the story.
Where will you use Parts of Me?
Every purchase is a licence for one named person. Schools and practices receive reduced pricing when several people buy together. Choose a collection to see exactly what is inside it.
At home
- The Parts of Me book, in PDF
- 28 printable activity pages
- Parts Cards and Regulation Cards
- Home Companion for adults
- Understanding the Child series
In the classroom
- The Parts of Me book, in PDF
- 28 printable activity pages
- Parts Cards and Regulation Cards
- Ten classroom posters
- Teacher Companion and ten lesson ideas
- Understanding the Child series
In practice
- The Parts of Me book, in PDF
- 28 printable activity pages
- Parts Cards and Regulation Cards
- Practitioner Companion
- Therapeutic and support session ideas
- Understanding the Child series
Every setting
- All three collections above
- Home, classroom and practice companions
- Everything you need if you support children in more than one place
Everything you need to begin, in one place
Each collection is made for the way you will use it. The Complete Collection includes all three.
| Included | Home | Classroom | Practice |
|---|---|---|---|
| The Parts of Me book, in PDF | Included | Included | Included |
| 28 printable activity pages | Included | Included | Included |
| 24 Parts Cards | Included | Included | Included |
| 24 Regulation Cards | Included | Included | Included |
| Start Here guide | Included | Included | Included |
| Understanding the Child series, five guides | Included | Included | Included |
| A companion guide written for you | Included | Included | Included |
| Classroom posters | Not included | Included | Not included |
| Classroom ideas: ten lesson suggestions | Not included | Included | Not included |
| Therapeutic and support session ideas | Not included | Not included | Included |
Three things children gain
Words for what they feel
Story, pictures and feeling cards give children names for what is happening inside, so they can tell you instead of showing you.
Ways to settle their body
Regulation cards and calming ideas help a child's body settle first, because reasoning is often out of reach in the middle of a big feeling.
More choice in what they do next
Once a child can notice a feeling and a need, there is room to choose a different response, and the adults around them share the language to help.
A gentler way to understand behaviour
- The child is never treated as the problem.
- Behaviour is approached with curiosity instead of blame.
- Children explore through story, pictures, cards, movement, play and creativity.
- Parents, whānau, teachers and practitioners can use one consistent shared language.
- The resources support awareness, communication, connection and choice.
- Adults do not need specialist knowledge to begin.
Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Five short guides for the adults, so that the language in the story carries into everyday moments.
Clear, fair licences for every setting
Every digital file is licensed to one named person. The files cannot be forwarded, resold, uploaded publicly or placed in a shared folder for people who do not hold a licence.
Home
One purchaser may use and print the materials for the children in their own household, and not for another household, school or professional.
Classroom
One named teacher may use the resources with the children they personally teach. Colleagues each need their own licence, and the files are not placed on a school drive.
Practice
One named practitioner may use the materials in their own work and share the files with the clients they personally support. They are not shared with other practitioners or uploaded to an organisational system.
Complete Collection
One named person receives all three collections for the settings that apply to their own household and work. Every additional adult needs a separate licence.
Buying for a team, school or practice?
Every teacher or practitioner using the digital resources needs their own licence. Reduced pricing applies when several licences are purchased together, which makes it easier to create a shared language across your team. After you buy, you invite each person by email and they each receive their own login.
Angela M. Carter
Angela is a Registered Social Worker, an IFS trained therapist and a trained DBR practitioner with over 30 years of clinical experience. She is the founder of the Trauma Release Centre and lives in Renwick, Marlborough, in the South Island of New Zealand.
Parts of Me is her children's book applying the principles of Internal Family Systems, illustrated by Aaron Randy, and this collection brings the story together with practical resources for home, school and practice.
Good to know before you buy
What ages is Parts of Me for?
Parts of Me is aimed at children up to 11 years of age. Some three year olds love the story and the pictures and others are not ready yet, so it is fine to follow your child's lead. Adults who have read the book have also told us they found it very informative for themselves.
Which collection should I choose?
Choose the one that matches where you will use it: Home for your own household, Classroom for the children you teach, Practice for your therapeutic and support work. Each has its own page with everything inside it. The Complete Collection is for one person who uses Parts of Me in more than one of those places.
How do I receive the files?
Straight after your purchase you receive a login by email. The book, activities, cards, guides and everything else in your collection are waiting in your members area, ready to download and print.
Do I need to know about Internal Family Systems?
No. The story is written for children and each collection has a companion guide that explains everything in plain words. Adults do not need specialist knowledge to begin.
Can I print the materials?
Yes. Each licence includes printing for the setting it was made for: children in your own household, the students you personally teach, or the clients you personally support.
Can I share the files with a colleague?
Each teacher or practitioner needs their own licence. If you are buying for several people, choose the number of licences on the collection you need and the reduced pricing is applied automatically.
Can practitioners share the files with clients?
Yes. A practitioner licence lets you share the files with the clients you personally support. It does not extend to other practitioners, or to uploading them to an organisational system.
How does a school or practice give access to each person?
When you buy several licences, you see them on a My licences page after checkout. You invite each teacher or practitioner by email, and each person gets their own login. If someone leaves, you can move the licence to someone else.
Is this a replacement for professional support?
Parts of Me is an educational and creative resource. It supports understanding, conversation and connection, and does not replace professional assessment or therapy when a child needs it.
Do you offer refunds?
Because Parts of Me is a digital download that you can open as soon as you buy, all sales are final and we do not offer refunds. Please look through the collection pages and the list of what is inside before you buy. If a file will not open or download, get in touch and we will put it right. This does not affect any rights you have under consumer law.
Give the children in your care a kinder way to understand themselves
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